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Monday, August 13, 2012

When a Character Lacks Social Skills

I'm a people analyzer watcher. Occupational hazard.

As a result, I'm very in tune to when someone is "off." I'm not talking about the people you might see walking down the street talking to themselves, gesticulating wildly at the heavens, and glaring at others like you might try to snatch their spare set of pants tied around their waist.

No, I'm talking about the people who masquerade as "normal." Coworkers who smile and nod as if everything is fine, but secretly harbor demented ideals of world takeover. Clerks who ring up your more intimate purchases at Target more slowly, thoughtfully. Major ick.

Or even people whose little quirks indicate they harbor an as-of-yet-unnamed mental illness. (Lack of official diagnosis doesn't mean it's not there!)

I run into these normal "off" people all the time. Of course in my work, but also at church, in the grocery store, at the mall (most definitely at the mall).

I got to thinking...how can a writer convey a slight "offness" of a character without spelling it out?

Here's some suggestions:

1) Don't use their POV. 

Behaviors are the most descriptive manifestation of mental illness. Behaviors encompass both what a person says, does, does not say, and does not do. Having other characters simply noticing their oddities will clue the reader in.

For example, the POV character could be having a conversation with the "off" character and notice an uncomfortably long silence, as the "off" character has lost the social cue to follow the flow of conversation.

This goes for conveying all mental illnesses, though. If one character has major ADHD, you could have a POV character wonder what he or she keeps looking around at, or how they can't be still while watching the movie, etc.

2) Focus on social mores. 

This is probably one of the biggest clues that someone isn't quite right. Below are a list of pro-social behaviors and a few examples of how a character could exhibit "off" behavior in that arena:

Eye contact: don't make eye contact, make too much eye contact, glare/stare excessively
Personal space: invade too much, stand too far away, are too free with their touch, never touch
Greeting: greet someone too effusively, don't move to shake hands when one is extended, greeting is out of place in the context, don't smile
Compliments: never give them, never accept them, give too many
Conversation: knowing when to speak, when not to, disclosing too much about themselves, not being able to make "small talk," listening/showing interest in the other person, not "tracking" the conversation with smiles, nods, "mmm-hmms"

I think you get the idea.

Let's Analyze:

How else might you convey to a reader that one of your characters is socially "off?"


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Great suggestions, Jeannie. It is a little creepy to recognize those traits in the people we come into contact with in our daily lives. Really makes you want to pay closer attention. And, your suggestions for fiction conjure up some great suspense scenes....Thank you.
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Andrea Franco-Cook · 658 weeks ago

Interesting post. Although I can see what you're saying here, IMHO, behavioral disorders can also be effective in the POV character's head. For example, in Phillipa Gregory's novel, The Red Queen, the m.c., Margaret ,sees herself as pious and special in God's eyes. In reality, her actions, along with her inner thoughts portray her as a selfish, bitter narcissist.

In one scene she ordered the murder of two young princes (they stood in the way of her boy's succession to the throne). They had been locked in a tower by their uncle. Marg saw this as an ideal opportunity to get rid of them. Just as her "hired guns" were about to do the deed, the guards saved the princes and locked them in a more secure area of the tower. Later, after she learns of the failed murder attempt, Marg prays to God and asks him to send her a sign, to let her know if He didn't want her son on the throne. A normal person might have viewed the failed attempt as a sign from God, but she only saw what she wanted. Throughout the novel, she justifies all her evil deeds as God's will.

There were times I was so irritated with the m.c., that I had to set the book down. Gregory is a master at portraying characters with "issues." I've learned a lot from reading her books.
So, my current WIP that I'm editing has a "mental" person, but they don't find out HOW mental until later in the book. I already had incorporated some of this stuff. My goal was to show the subtle signs but not for it to be TOO glaring to the people around the person until it comes to a head later.

we shall see if it worked! ha!
Great suggestions, Jeannie! I don't think I've created any "off" people yet, but that doesn't mean they won't be created in the future. :)
Oooh, so interesting. I will never look at clerks the same way again. lol
These would work well for the criminal element too.

......dhole
There are some awesome suggestions here. It's interesting to analyze the people we know, as well as ourselves. It's hard not to pass those traits, good and bad, off to our characters.
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Alice Lynn · 658 weeks ago

A great look at the subtle behaviors that can indicate incipient or ongoing mental disturbances. Thanks for the ideas.

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