I selected a few techniques that can be done at any time or place.
Square Breathing
You can do this technique standing or sitting, although I prefer clients to sit. If you were in my office, I'd say close your eyes, but if people are milling about, just leave them open. The instructions are simple:
a) Slowly count to 3 as you take a deep breath in through your nose
b) Hold your breath for 3 counts
c) Let the breath out through your mouth for 3 counts
d) Hold for 3 counts
e) Repeat a few times/as needed
You can increase the count to 4 if this suits your lung capacity better.
Mindfulness
Mindfulness is bringing yourself into the present moment. It's making yourself relax and become aware of your breath, thoughts, feelings, surroundings and sensations. You give your self-critical, controlling mind a rest and accept the moment with peace and non-resistance. (Yes, sounds a little new-agey, but it works and you won't need to go to church afterward to repent.)
Since anxiety lives in the body as chronic tension, just breathing can help undo that tension, which restores balance to the body and mind. It's hard to remember your breath, so setting aside time to do so amidst the hustle and bustle of conference will help you relax. (Breath is key!)
a) Sit as relaxed and still as possible
b) Don't try to control your thoughts - just observe your breath and other sensations/sounds. Don't engage your thoughts, just let them come and go
c) Focus on breathing or heart beat or the rise/fall of your belly/chest
Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR)
PMR is when you tense and relax various muscle groups in your body in a progression. You hold the tension for about 10 seconds and then relax, noticing the difference between relaxed and tense. You usually work bottom to top, right to left.
a) Right foot, calf, thigh, entire leg
b) Left foot, calf, thigh, entire leg
c) Right hand, forearm, bicep, entire arm
d) Left hand, forearm, bicep, entire arm
e) Buttocks
f) Abdomen
g) Chest (fill and hold lungs)
h) Shoulders
i) Neck
j) Face (stretch out forehead and cheeks by exaggeratedly mouthing the vowel sounds - you might want some privacy for this part, or leave it out)
While you're waiting for the Book of the Year (Carol Award) or Genesis Awards to be revealed, or waiting in line to see the agent or editor of your dreams, use one or all of these techniques to bring you back to a more relaxed state of mind. Remember, God is master of your anxiety.
Hope to see many of you at the conference this year!! Additional details below.
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You'll see me doing a lot of the above in the room and you also will see me laugh a lot. It seems to be the way I handle many things in life. It lightens me. Teasing myself helps me keep in light and keeps my ego in check.
Excited to see you there!
~ Wendy
Won't be able to go to the ACFW conference--though I had considered it--but these tips will be helpful when facing other anxiety-producing situations! Thanks so much for sharing :-)
I love that tip, "don't engage your thoughts", especially negative ones or ones of worry that won't change no matter what we do. Sometimes the best thing to do is let go. Thanks for the tips. I'll see you there!
I appreciate these tips, thanks so much:)
Blessings,
Karen
Great advice!
Hey, where was this great advice when I went to my first conference back in '04? :)
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Both comments and questions are welcome. I hope you enjoyed your time on the couch today.