tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post6673671779631601630..comments2024-01-05T04:13:16.946-06:00Comments on The Character Therapist: Treatment Tuesday - Meeting An Absent FatherJeannie Campbell, LMFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13958943404601029395noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post-41577540019356904122009-11-25T18:02:00.142-06:002009-11-25T18:02:00.142-06:00eileen - i hope that other authors do what alexand...eileen - i hope that other authors do what alexandra did with me in the comments...it's like little McSessions. :)Jeannie Campbell, LMFThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958943404601029395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post-4336986940146070302009-11-25T14:04:58.074-06:002009-11-25T14:04:58.074-06:00Just scanned the comments. Wow, I love the brainst...Just scanned the comments. Wow, I love the brainstorming aspect here. So helpful to a writer to see this in action.Eileen Astels Watsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11098531184044931737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post-18146172102988402972009-11-25T14:02:22.069-06:002009-11-25T14:02:22.069-06:00Oh my gosh, I want to read this book. Bestill my h...Oh my gosh, I want to read this book. Bestill my heart, a novelist character in it too. Oh, Alexandra, you must write this one. Craft it to perfection and let us all know when it comes out. Please! I'm thinking a bit Castle in book form here. Certainly lots of dramma in this story, like the show offers.Eileen Astels Watsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11098531184044931737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post-69938810269071190272009-11-24T22:21:57.123-06:002009-11-24T22:21:57.123-06:00you're welcome, alexandra. anytime.
now get t...you're welcome, alexandra. anytime.<br /><br />now get to work. :)Jeannie Campbell, LMFThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958943404601029395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post-12877007981340565972009-11-24T21:32:05.506-06:002009-11-24T21:32:05.506-06:00Thanks so much for the absolutely awesome and tota...Thanks so much for the absolutely awesome and totally helpful assessment! This has helped me soooo much, you have no idea. <br /><br />I was scared stiff, to be honest, at writing characters with so many issues that I couldn't relate to at all, but this has totally helped me and now I'm excited to be applying this. ;-) <br /><br />I've enjoyed the interaction so much! Thanks!!!Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17437117457544744702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post-32238106800322685672009-11-24T20:24:33.519-06:002009-11-24T20:24:33.519-06:00kathryn's adjustment difficulties would (in my...kathryn's adjustment difficulties would (in my opinion) be minimal. since this IS the only life she's known, you know? now with a custody battle, depending on how much she is told or knows about it, she could definitely have acting out behaviors as manifestations of her insecurity. depending on how she is, she might have a difficult grief reaction to the idea of losing her grandmother. something to consider.<br /><br />fyi - this has been fun! i wish more authors did this with me. :)Jeannie Campbell, LMFThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958943404601029395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post-66087662323384803452009-11-24T15:14:00.606-06:002009-11-24T15:14:00.606-06:00This is so helpful. Thanks so much.
What about K...This is so helpful. Thanks so much. <br /><br />What about Kathryn? Would there be any problems she's going through? I mean, this is the only life she's known...her grandmother being sick, her mother working all the time, being carted from daycare to babysitters to etc. <br /><br />Also at one point the boyfriend tries to gain custody of Kathryn. What behaviors would be normal for a four-year-old child in that situation?Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17437117457544744702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post-70925977872825131452009-11-24T14:11:58.816-06:002009-11-24T14:11:58.816-06:00when i wrote that, that's what i was getting a...when i wrote that, that's what i was getting at. a man isn't going to wait around forever (even a wonderful, long-suffering one as i imagine danny is). there will be a point for danny (and probably only you know what that would be) where he just can't keep his heart on the line. so he'd remove the "possibility" of something more with her from his mind (men CAN do this...it's harder for women b/c we don't compartmentalize) even though danny could still try to be there as a friend in some capacity. what you could do is have her realize this choice she had to make isn't really to love him (b/c she DOES) but whether to give up her trust issues from the past and TRUST him (and let him know she does). that's her choice. good reading would be to have her realize this after the fact when danny is figuratively "walking away," and then she gives up her internal struggle to be with him. make sense? just a suggestion. :) we can volley ideas back and forth if you like.Jeannie Campbell, LMFThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958943404601029395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post-72588370262556916622009-11-24T13:20:41.613-06:002009-11-24T13:20:41.613-06:00"She’ll either have to come out of her scared..."She’ll either have to come out of her scared shell to accept the love he is offering…and that’s a conscious choice...or she'll face living her life completely alone." <br /><br />So this isn't a matter of just "falling" for Danny...which isn't reality anyway. Ellie's going to have to just trust him, basically, make the choice that this is the right thing. In her case there wouldn't be a "wow, I guess I'm in love with him" thing. Isn't run by emotions, because her emotions are telling her that she can't trust any man. Am I right? What's the "choice" process she's going to be going through? (She does end up with Danny, BTW)<br /><br />Hope these questions make sense. I've never tackled a character with these kinds of problems and I really just want to do her justice and make her believeable.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17437117457544744702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post-24486286196158571652009-11-24T13:03:46.410-06:002009-11-24T13:03:46.410-06:00Alexandra - women stay in abusive relationships so...Alexandra - women stay in abusive relationships so long sometimes they die. it's a dependent issue...where the abuser makes the woman totally dependent on them. takes away outside resources, prevents them from contacting others without permission. it's a combination of intimidation and manipulation. so if he's paying for her writing degree, she already is "beholden" to him...there is a discrepancy of power in the relationship (he holds more). so now, i don't think it's far-fetched at all...on the contrary. it's more realistic than it should be, unfortunately.<br /><br />keep the questions coming if you got 'em. :) glad the assessment was helpful.Jeannie Campbell, LMFThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958943404601029395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post-17571466710380777652009-11-24T10:52:27.311-06:002009-11-24T10:52:27.311-06:00Thanks so much!!!
One of the biggest issues I...Thanks so much!!! <br /><br />One of the biggest issues I'm struggling with is why Ellie stayed so long with Kathryn's father if he was abusive long before she finally left him. He was paying for her to get a writing degree, which was what she always wanted to do. (She finally left a year before she finished). But is it too far-fetched to have her staying with this guy, even though she was going through the abuse? Why would she?<br /><br />First question of a bunch today. :-) Again, thanks so much!Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17437117457544744702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7217391718085448472.post-40238103493239278692009-11-24T08:40:46.265-06:002009-11-24T08:40:46.265-06:00Oh, Jeannnie, that was sooooooooo good. I really e...Oh, Jeannnie, that was sooooooooo good. I really enjoyed your assessment, and Alexandra's book sounds great!Jennifer Shirkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16970585847385511795noreply@blogger.com